A Spark of Divine Fire

One of my favorite lines is from My fair Lady. When Professor Higgins realizes Eliza has left, not having her around any longer, hurts his feelings. He says, "Very well, let her go, I can do without her. I can do without anyone. I have my own soul! My own spark of divine fire!"

The reason I love this line so much is because I think sometimes it's forgotten while in the mud and muck of life we have the ability to pull ourselves out of what ever it is we've gotten into. It's about change and evolving into a better being.

I've watched and seem friends who keep repeating the past over and over again. So stuck in their own issues that they create one crisis to the next. Forgetting to take control of their life and run it the way they'd like it to be.

If you don't like your life or situation change it, the way you want it to be! It's that easy. The same way that crisis was created is the same way to get out.

Step by step, inch by inch, and line upon line. It's not going to change all at once, it takes time, patience, and persistence. But also a willingness to be open. If one thing doesn't work, try another, if that one doesn't work, think of another. I learned this from my fourth child.

He's unique and wired a different way. The parenting skills I learned from the others don't usually work with him. He needs different options, which result into different outcomes. Parenting a child like him has taught me to look at things in a different perspective. Seeing if that square peg can be changed, or completely getting rid of the round hole. Which ever the option is, making a list either mentally or physically of all the options can help. Asking friends and family what works for them? (Noting that you just want ideas- you don't have to actually do what they suggest.)

My son also taught me paying close attention to triggers can end a tantrum before it begins. Stopping it ahead of time before reaching that breaking point. I'm not endorsing giving them everything they desire, but distracting or guiding them (or ourselves) towards better solutions and options. Which then results in better outcomes. For better results, I learned I had to make a few changes in my own life, over what type of friends I was around.

I found that as I spent time with a certain friend that I was sucked into a negative and bitter attitude while being around her. We would start gossiping about others after we had nothing else to talk about. I'd walk away feeling so dark and icky that I'd bring it home and spread it out to my children. After this happening multiple times I realized I didn't want that type of balky atmosphere in my home.

If being a round a particular friend is exhausting; don't hang around them.  If that's not an option invite other friends to come along also. Another option is only allowing short visits with them and afterwards doing something that revitalizes you. Doing activities together that limit the interaction can also be a possibility.

My solution was limiting the time I spent with her. For those that think this was mean of me to do; I just wasn't strong enough to resist her venomous attitude and in return pass it out among those around me.  It could be considered a flaw in my character and to that I say- it's something I'm sure I'll get the another chance to work on. (cause if you mess up- life gives you multiple opportunities to get it right, and it keeps offering the opportunity until you succeed.)

I'd view my personality as a camelion. Being around positive people brings me to a better state. While negative ones tend to bring me to low places, I'd rather not be at. Finding the friends that build me up and keep me at a higher frequency of living are the friendships I've cherished most through out my life and continue to strive towards obtaining. Because everyone's spark of divine fire should be seen as it shines!

Life's Guilty Pleasures and Terrible Pit Falls

If there's one thing I love above anything else, it's writing, but even a writer can not live by pen and paper alone. (Rewriting scripture, is that blasphemy?)

Although I wish I could keep it that simple.  As a mother of five I'm constantly pushed and pulled in different directions. My question is, when troubles arise,(cause they always do) why is our first reaction to fight it instead, seeing the lesson that can be learned?

I think the Universe moves us in the directions we're meant to go, but do we listen?
We can punch at the bricks all we want, but in the end we'll end up with bruised and bloody knuckles.

Instead of fighting it, what if we found an alternative way around that obstacle?
Could that simple shift in energy make me get further faster? Or any of us for that matter?

I run across people so stuck in their own ways,(we all have, you know the type.)  they're not willing to try something new or give change a chance. What's the fear? Failure?

In sixth grade I had my teacher Mrs. Moore, tell me, "the real failure was not trying." I took that to heart, I still live by that rule. I love trying something new. A food I've never tasted, a place I've never been, a pair of shoes that are funky.(I love my Naughty Monkeys) I like the unusual, I embrace it especially in others.

I've tried so many different things in my life that I ended up hating. What I did learn was, I don't like water skiing, my face being pulled along a violent blanket of water was not fun. I'm not patient enough to learn the piano, and reading music is like learning a foreign  language.

The things I learned I loved doing; I enjoy dancing, is a huge part of my weekly workout. ( GO ZUMBA!) I think Chocolate is a precious gift from the Gods, especially See's Chocolates. And last I love learning about improving, on about anything; cooking, cleaning, writing, you name it, I find it fascinating to lean on many, many different things.

In the end we all have tried things that we loved and some we hated. What were some for you and what did you learn from the experience? I think that's the most important part, the value we get out of it.