A Spark of Divine Fire

One of my favorite lines is from My fair Lady. When Professor Higgins realizes Eliza has left, not having her around any longer, hurts his feelings. He says, "Very well, let her go, I can do without her. I can do without anyone. I have my own soul! My own spark of divine fire!"

The reason I love this line so much is because I think sometimes it's forgotten while in the mud and muck of life we have the ability to pull ourselves out of what ever it is we've gotten into. It's about change and evolving into a better being.

I've watched and seem friends who keep repeating the past over and over again. So stuck in their own issues that they create one crisis to the next. Forgetting to take control of their life and run it the way they'd like it to be.

If you don't like your life or situation change it, the way you want it to be! It's that easy. The same way that crisis was created is the same way to get out.

Step by step, inch by inch, and line upon line. It's not going to change all at once, it takes time, patience, and persistence. But also a willingness to be open. If one thing doesn't work, try another, if that one doesn't work, think of another. I learned this from my fourth child.

He's unique and wired a different way. The parenting skills I learned from the others don't usually work with him. He needs different options, which result into different outcomes. Parenting a child like him has taught me to look at things in a different perspective. Seeing if that square peg can be changed, or completely getting rid of the round hole. Which ever the option is, making a list either mentally or physically of all the options can help. Asking friends and family what works for them? (Noting that you just want ideas- you don't have to actually do what they suggest.)

My son also taught me paying close attention to triggers can end a tantrum before it begins. Stopping it ahead of time before reaching that breaking point. I'm not endorsing giving them everything they desire, but distracting or guiding them (or ourselves) towards better solutions and options. Which then results in better outcomes. For better results, I learned I had to make a few changes in my own life, over what type of friends I was around.

I found that as I spent time with a certain friend that I was sucked into a negative and bitter attitude while being around her. We would start gossiping about others after we had nothing else to talk about. I'd walk away feeling so dark and icky that I'd bring it home and spread it out to my children. After this happening multiple times I realized I didn't want that type of balky atmosphere in my home.

If being a round a particular friend is exhausting; don't hang around them.  If that's not an option invite other friends to come along also. Another option is only allowing short visits with them and afterwards doing something that revitalizes you. Doing activities together that limit the interaction can also be a possibility.

My solution was limiting the time I spent with her. For those that think this was mean of me to do; I just wasn't strong enough to resist her venomous attitude and in return pass it out among those around me.  It could be considered a flaw in my character and to that I say- it's something I'm sure I'll get the another chance to work on. (cause if you mess up- life gives you multiple opportunities to get it right, and it keeps offering the opportunity until you succeed.)

I'd view my personality as a camelion. Being around positive people brings me to a better state. While negative ones tend to bring me to low places, I'd rather not be at. Finding the friends that build me up and keep me at a higher frequency of living are the friendships I've cherished most through out my life and continue to strive towards obtaining. Because everyone's spark of divine fire should be seen as it shines!